It can be easy to let precious moments slip away into the sea of things we have to do. My husband stays busy with work, while I stay busy with just about everything else. There is hardly any time for us to just take a break and appreciate each other and our marriage. At one point, I had settled for accepting doing chores with my husband as spending time together. Technically, it can be considered as such. However, it was at that moment that I knew I needed to put forth a better effort to give my husband as much attention as I give to my home and kids.
We are only a few months into this married life thing, so we don’t have all of the answers. I am so glad that we have a foundation resting on God because we wouldn’t make it through the hard times without him. God has given me so much wisdom throughout every area of my life, and my marriage is no exception. I had begun to get irritated with my husband about the simplest things like snoring and forgetting to take out the trash. God promptly revealed to me that I needed to remember my husband as my lover and friend, not just my protector and provider.
It wasn’t easy, but I had to check my attitude almost every 30 minutes. I’m known to most people as being mean and I used that as an excuse to stay that way for so long. My attitudes were so constant that I was becoming tired of them myself. Plus, my husband is too nice to have to deal with my attitude 24/7. I had to change.
After I had made the necessary adjustments to my mood, I had to start scheduling special time for my husband. It’s easier said than done because 24 hours isn’t as much time as it seems to be. Luckily, I like to stay busy these days. Simple things like watching a movie or walking the dog together made drastic improvements to my marriage.
I’m only sharing these things because marriage does not come with a rule book. There are no instructions to follow, and there’s no definite right or wrong way to be happily married. We learn from trial and error. Also, we learn from the experience of others. I’m doing my duty to pass on this invaluable knowledge to who ever takes the time to read it. Use today to be more loving and spend more time with the people you love the most. Your relationships will improve and you will relieve stress. Try it and let me know how it turned out for you!